#79: Two Teacher Types in Martial Arts [Podcast]

Howdy! Good to see you again. Ando here
from Happy Life Martial Arts. This is episode #79 of Fight for a Happy
Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole
lot better. It’s been a busy month. I’m sure you’re busy too, so let’s get right
to it. Today I want to talk about the two types
of martial arts teachers that you’re gonna run into out there. I’ve
experienced both of these teacher types. I think I’ve been both of these
teacher types. But it’s an important discussion because I think once you
identify the two types of teachers, you’ll also identify the two types of
students who are attracted to those types of teachers, and once you have an
idea of what kind of student you are, you’ll have a clear idea of why you want
that kind of teacher and what you’re getting from that kind of teacher. Maybe
you’re not in the right place. Maybe you didn’t know there’s another type of
teacher out there. So this might get a little uncomfortable, but if you’re a
normal listener to this show you’re used to that, so you ready let’s get to it. Okay, so the other day I put up a clip on
Instagram it was just me in the park and I was spinning a staff it looked pretty
smooth so I put it up just for fun but I also put up a little clip right after it
of a blooper of me dropping the staff flies off camera almost broke the
windshield on my car and I got a bunch of direct messages from that post people
you know smiley faces or oh my gosh did you hurt your head that kind of thing
and it was a great example I think of showing the two types of teachers you
run into in the martial arts you see some people posting clips where
everything they do is perfect everything’s effective they don’t slip
they don’t let go of something by accident and then you have the other
clips where you see them maybe making mistakes a type of teacher who let the
let you see behind the curtain and they’re working out and they’re
struggling or they’re in rehab letting you know that they’re vulnerable
sometimes let’s go a little deeper into this these
two types of teachers because like I said I’ve experienced both the first
type of teacher I would call the untouchable teacher this would be the
classic authority figure they set themselves up almost like a god or maybe
to be fair they don’t maybe the culture does maybe their students do but they
allow it so they put themselves in a position where respect in that
environment is expected it’s their name on the door
it’s their school it’s their lineage maybe it’s their style so you get in
line and you say yes sir just by the fact because they’re there
because that’s who they are you just do that like in a military setting you may
not know the general but you salute the general the untouchable teacher is
usually someone who’s not gonna spar with you they’re not gonna roll with you
they’re not gonna sweat with you you’re not gonna see them make mistakes they’re
not gonna slip and hit their head they’re not gonna say whoops they’re not
gonna tell you if they don’t know something they’re gonna let you believe
that they’ve got it all figured out you’re not gonna think that they’re out
taking a class on the side learning anything more or that they’re watching
videos they seem like they’ve got it all under control
so that’s one type of teacher the other type of teacher I would call the
touchable teacher I don’t want to get weird about this but you know what I
mean it’s martial arts this type of teacher even if it is their name on the
door and it is their style or their lineage they make mistakes in front of
you they’re in the trenches with you they sweat with you you can see that
they’re still learning and discovering about themselves and about their
techniques they’ll tell you if they don’t know something they’ll admit if
they could do something better or they’ll say something like yeah I’m
still working on this or look what I’m working on this is a very different kind
of teacher than the first one in that environment I find even though you may
still treat them like a legend like a God you may bring that energy to them
but they usually laugh that off or they they look down when you talk like that
and in that way they earn your respect it’s not just expected but you have this
personal connection with them where you feel like I really like this person and
I respect them so it’s a little different it’s not the military models
so much or the religious model if you like it’s more of an interpersonal model
now like I said in the intro there are pros and cons to both of these
approaches for instance it’s easy to bash nowadays authority figures
particularly when we’ve seen so many crumble right whether it’s in politics
or religion when you have an idol and then you see some scandal up here you
see their faults you see their flaws and then your faith in that system or that
religion can be tested so it’s easy to jump on that bandwagon and say like yeah
all authority figures are garbage and you shouldn’t put your faith into
anybody but there are some times when it’s appropriate so for instance let’s
say you’re working with kids I work with kids you don’t want a four-year-old to
see you crying necessarily you don’t want a four girl to come to your class
and have you say yeah I don’t know what exactly to do with bullies I I got a
couple of ideas but no guarantees kid I’m not sure this is always going to
work with kids you don’t necessarily want them to experience the chaos of
life they’re born into this chaos and you’re trying to show them some
structure give them a sense of security let them know that where they’re
sleeping is still going to exist tomorrow that they’re gonna have a meal
coming that they can trust you that they can come to you that you’re a safe
person to talk to children need that type of authority figure
just to develop emotionally in a healthy way
I think another context let’s say you’re in the military and you’re on a mission
of some kind you’re in the battle zone you don’t want a commander saying uh
you know guys I’m not sure which way to go here let’s roll the dice let’s go
this way huh whatever you don’t want to follow that guy you want someone who’s
gonna stand I’m saying alright man and women grab your guns
we’re going this way that’s what we’re doing this is gonna work victories
before us you see ok you know hey I maybe I don’t know what’s going on but
you sure seem to know what’s going on and now I’m gonna give you my best
that’s our best chance so I think in those two context these are just quickly
off the top of my head I think authority figures are very healthy I’ll throw in
one more if even if you’re an adult but you’ve had a chaotic life maybe you’ve
had abusive parents maybe you didn’t have a lot of money you’re on the
streets for a while maybe there was a lot of chaos to find someplace that
seems stable and secure and consistent can be very healing to you to build
faith back in the world it’s not all chaos right I don’t want to make it
sound like I just believe like it’s all chaos and there’s no meaning no I don’t
believe that but if you’ve come from that kind of background that’s how you
were raised it might be very difficult for you to
talk to people and connect with people it might be very difficult for you to
ask for help so finding an institution whether that’s a religious group or a
Facebook group or a martial arts channel whatever that is if someone can step for
and say hey I’ve been there here are some things that have helped me let me
show you the way that’s not so bad that someone has a guiding hand and can take
you a few steps into the world of safety and security the question is how far
should you hold onto that hand at what point do you finally let go and say okay
I got it now thanks for getting me back on path back on the path I can take it
from here because there are other people in the martial arts I said there’s the
touchable and the untouchable teachers but sometimes you might run into a
teacher who’s confused about what role they’re playing they may be a younger
teacher but they were raised in a system where they had an authority figure so
now they’re turning around and starting to teach as a younger teacher they just
expect that they will be treated the way that they treated their authority figure
teacher does that make sense it would be easy if I had an untouchable
teacher and like I said I have experienced that I’ve had teachers where
I was told don’t make eye contact with them don’t look at them directly I had
teachers you just weren’t allowed to touch them they might demonstrate on a
senior students but you would never go over and say could you do that on me
just not done inappropriate disrespectful still so you
might have a teacher raised under that type of culture who okay now it’s my
turn to turn around I’m gonna start my group and hey everyone stand up look at
me I know everything don’t ask questions how dare you talk to me in that way
we’re not buddies I’m your teacher but the students feeling like what are you
talking about you’re only like five years older than I am or ten years older
than I am I can see that you’re still working on skills yes I see that you’re
better than I am but you’re not that great you’re not a legend or anything I
haven’t seen what you do yet in depth so take it down a notch you know earn my
respect a little bit here you’re not the wise old man on a hill that I’m just
gonna buy into yet so that could be a little conflict when your ego comes up
and you just feel like I’m on the man or the woman
whatever you say nowadays I’m the human I’m the number-one dog whatever the big
issue here no matter how you cut this is security I think is a martial arts
student you sign up because on some level you’re insecure about something
and I don’t mean in a bad way I just mean there’s some doubts in you maybe
it’s just about your physical fitness you have some insecurities about the
shape you’re in or your stamina or your health you’re not sure if you’re gonna
live very long so you’re just you’re looking for some structured fitness
activity to keep you healthy okay it could be a deeper insecurity it could be
that you do want a father figure or a mother figure to guide you morally and
physically and spiritually and you’re looking for that sense of order in the
chaos that could be part of what you’re looking for it might be just very
practical it could just be self-defense you just don’t feel particularly safe in
your skin maybe you were bullied or you fear being
bullied or you fear what you read in the papers all the time so you say oh that’s
it I gotta learn how to fight and defend myself defend my family defend my
friends these are all valid reasons to sign up for a martial arts course the
trouble would come if you’re not aware of which insecurities you’re trying to
fill and which insecurities your teacher is trying to hide or they’re not even
aware of so for instance let’s say you are the type of person who really wants
to learn some self-defense and you’re you’re afraid of being attacked
physically so you find a teacher who’s very authoritative authoritarian Thorat
Aryan in their teaching style and they say this is it this is how you get out
of a choke and you searching for that security say great now I know how to get
out of a choke but the teacher never lets you see how that technique
sometimes doesn’t work or sometimes there’s a different technique that might
work better or how sometimes you just apply principles and create something
that’s never been done before something you’ve never practiced before but in a
particular situation was the exact right thing to do an authoritative oh my gosh
an authoritarian style teacher doesn’t allow that room for you to create
something on your own they don’t want that chaos slipping into the system they
have to have all the answers and therefore I meet martial artists who
talk like that they say oh I know how to do this and I know how to do that
well I’m not worried because I’m a brown belt and they’re a green belt so I can
beat them and they make these really I think overly confident statements that
are a little detached from reality because reality is more of a funhouse do
you know the difference between if you go to a fun house like a haunted house
and you say up front hey when you go in here you bought this
ticket when you go in here there are people loaded up inside these closets
and around corners they’re gonna jump out and try to scare you now when you
walk into that funhouse you’re still gonna get scared right you’re gonna get
even though you know it’s coming because you don’t know exactly when but that’s
not the same kind of fear you’re gonna feel if you go into your real house you
didn’t buy the ticket you’re not expecting anyone to jump on your closet
you walk into your house and then suddenly someone does jump out of your
closet in some ways I think the authority figure style teacher the
untouchable prepares you for the funhouse they’re saying okay well in
this context you’ve got an answer you’ve got a preparation to deal with this
situation but they don’t want you to they don’t have the tools to share with
you they’re not giving you the tools to prepare if somebody really jumped out of
your closet in your real house it’s a little different situation so anyway if
you’re looking for that kind of security in that kind of order then of course
you’re gonna be attracted to the authority style teacher the untouchable
you’re gonna want to believe that what they say is is the golden standard which
relieves you of the responsibility for having to think for yourself experiment
for yourself and do that extra work where you start finding out that there
are no guarantees everything doesn’t work that you’re
gonna still have to scramble sometimes and lose sometimes you don’t get the
delusion of thinking you know you’re always going to win that you always have
the answer so and the positive side you get confidence on the con side it’s a
limited confidence it’s not a complete confidence in some contexts it would be
a false confidence and that could get you hurt now on the other hand let’s say
you’re working with a touchable teacher in that context if you are someone
looking for that security and that golden standard then you’ll be
disappointed with that teacher you won’t feel satisfied you’re not getting the
answers that you want the teacher keeps looking back at you saying well I’m
still working on this so let’s work on this together and you’re thinking no I’m
paying you to show me how to do this and you might resent that kind of a teacher
for not having not being able to step up and say this is it I got it all figured
out for you that’s a different kind of teacher and depending on what stage of
life you’re in and what level of insecurities you have
you’re gonna find yourself attracted to these two different teachers at two
different times I think so what kind of teacher are you with right now or what
kind of teacher are you at this point are you aware of what you’re providing
to your students do you see the value in letting them see you make mistakes as a
student do you feel comfortable making mistakes all these issues just run into
each other very very quickly I believe as you can tell from my Instagram post
in letting you see the bloopers I don’t actually care for bloopers artistically
but I like them as a fan let me rephrase that
the whole point of art is to create a reality and you want to believe in that
reality if I watch Batman and I want to be inspired by Batman I don’t want to go
through that whole emotional journey feel inspired like I can be a hero I can
use my powers for good and then right after I have that experience show be
shown how the that’s not really Batman and none of this is real and they’re all
just laughing and they’re all just being paid to put on this show
to me that ruins the whole artistic effect the whole point of it so as a
creator I don’t like that as a or as a as a fan looking for inspiration I’m not
a big fan of that in that way I guess I like the authority model in art show me
something perfect that’s what inspires me something to shoot for
not that I’ll reach it but it’s something to shoot for but in real life
I am a fan of the blooper reel I think in real life I want to see what’s going
on behind the scenes how did you get to where you are if you can do something
that I want to do I can’t possibly buy into the idea that you’re always going
to be better than me and I’ll never be as good as you
that’s another symptom that you run into with the untouchable style of teacher in
one of the arts that I studied that was in that type of culture The Untouchables
the great Grandmaster who is the legend my teacher would talk about how his
teacher was so much better than he was that he’ll never be as good as his
teacher and then of course the way he presented himself I always had the
implication that I’ll never be as good as he was so very quickly you would see
how the martial arts would get worse and worse and worse every generation because
if every teacher says I’ll never be as good as my teacher
how long does that take before that entire art fizzles out and no one’s very
good at anything anymore the authority model just completely falls apart
psychologically how could you have confidence if you’re never as good as
your teacher nothing you do is good enough nothing you do is perfect nothing
you do is the end and your teachers telling you that he felt the same way
about their teacher and that teacher felt the same about their teacher and
it’s always this yielding of all power to the person ahead of you I’m not sure
if that’s in the long term a very healthy mindset the opposite of that
with the touchable teacher completely different psychological dynamic right if
you’re the kind of teacher who has the goal to make your students better than
you now your art grows every generation if my teacher can say that he was better
than his teacher as a compliment saying you know what my teacher made a lot of
mistakes and they fix those mistakes and they passed down their lessons to me and
they showed me where they had made errors and they fixed it and they helped
me go even farther than they did now of course with humility you probably won’t
walk around talking about how you’re better than your teacher but at some
point if you have a really cool teacher they may say to you you know you’ve gone
beyond what I do you may need to go seek another teacher at this point you hear
stories like that in the in the the historical text about one teacher
talking about oh they wasn’t studied with this teacher for five years and
learned all he could they went to the next teacher and these the ronin who
would go around maybe from town to town challenging the teacher if they were
defeated they would stay with that teacher until they got better than going
to the next town something like that but in that way how exciting is that
you’re part of a lineage that’s improving and increasing the standards
improving the standards so I think that’s the benefit of being a touchable
style of teacher when your students come into the room they shouldn’t feel like
they’ll never be as good as you they shouldn’t fear making mistakes on
the path to becoming better than you it’s so much more beautiful when it’s
the opposite they come into that room feeling like they have a chance at not
just matching your skills but taking them another step farther and then with
their students and their children going even farther and you’re the root of that
tree or at least you’re a branch of that tree to me I don’t know I think that’s a
healthier mindset to live with and to be part of to encourage a couple of other
benefits a couple of other benefits I get excited of being a touchable style
teacher number one it silences your critics we all know no matter what you
do no matter what kind of teacher you are you’re gonna have critics but if
you’re the first person to step up and say hey I’m not that great at this or
whoops that was a mistake or hey I can do that better then you take away the
ammo from your enemies or your critics to say hey hey hey you’re over there
trying to be all godlike and build up his legend but look you screwed that up
or you don’t even know what you’re doing or you don’t even do that well if you’re
the first person to admit that they have a lot less to say it takes the steam out
of their engine that’s not to say your critic proof there’s always something
but I don’t mind when people say hey says he and oh you got big ears that’s
the best you got fantastic I must be doing my job because I’m calling out all
my other mistakes first another benefit like I said you are instilling a belief
in your students that they can be better than you when I was in the cultures the
schools that had the cultures of the untouchable God like Grand Master it was
really I always felt nervous I always felt insecure because I knew I
was never good enough no matter what I did if I was performing
a form of sparring there was always a little sneer there was always a nope
nope and I’m not talking about being a tough love kind of teacher who’s giving
your student honest feedback and leaving room for improvement but you know what
I’m talking about here right it’s just this this crushing belief system where
you’re nothing and the legend is everything and you will never get near
that level that’s a horrible curse to put on your students so by being a
touchable stew a teacher spar with your students make mistakes in front of your
students role with your students sweat with your students laugh with your
students you’re giving them that belief system and the encouragement to keep
going because they see that they’re making progress it’s so much easier to
see when you’re right there going Wow I’ve had some kids right and I’ll say
okay everybody horse-stance I mean I’ll drop down and some kids I mean their
flexibility and their bone structure whatever they drop into that horse
stance and I will immediately if I see it I’ll say whoa everybody look over
here that horse stance is better than mine now that is something my
untouchable teachers never said and never thought about saying it would
destroy the whole thing how could a student be better than a teacher at
something but if I see a child drop down to a full split I’m gonna say hey Wow
good for you kid you can do that better than I can
or I’ll say all the time you guys are faster than I am you see you guys bounce
back faster than I do you have more energy than I do what’s wrong with that
untouchable teachers are very happy calling out shortcomings and mistakes
touchable teachers are very comfortable calling out positives attributes skills
all the things that are going well in the class to me that’s a really healthy
kind of teacher a good teacher what else oh when you’re a touchable kind of
teacher it also gives you the freedom to keep learning and growing
what’s wrong with telling your students that you’re taking a class on the
because hey you know what I’m not that great at ground fighting so I signed up
for a BJJ class why shouldn’t that inspire your students to keep learning
as well they see you learning you’re the perfect role model they will do as you
do not as you say because they respect the process that they see you going
through give yourself that freedom I knew of one teacher who was very
charismatic and the students would willingly try to worship Him okay they
would go the extra mile with the respect and the bowing and oh they’re the best
and they would want to make him seem as if he was the untouchable and he would
do something kind of course and I didn’t like it at the time but I understand it
better now and I respect it if he was starting a class or a seminar he would
trip or burp yeah belch and when I eventually talked to him about it that’s
what he basically said he said it makes him more approachable it makes him more
human it takes him off the pedestal for a second by purposely doing something a
little sloppy or just admitting a genuine mistake or even going out of the
way to let someone see ya I’m not perfect I could even be a little gross
I’m not suggesting that you go around belching in front of your students that
was his choice I don’t I don’t follow that one but I have the freedom to
create my own but that’s just an example to give yourself the freedom to make the
mistakes and trip and fall and have a bad day that’s a huge relief right off
the bat the last one I would say the other big advantage to being a touchable
teacher I think you’ll receive more from the people around you that might sound
selfish at first so give me a second what I mean is if you present yourself
as having all the answers as knowing everything as being completely
self-contained and that you don’t need anything then no one will offer you
anything it’s as if if you’re sitting there
with a cake and you’re eating the cake someone’s got a cupcake there’s no point
in them coming over and saying oh you want this cupcake nope I’m good I got a
cake keep it eventually they won’t even ask you if you want a cupcake
but what a horrible way to close the door on new opportunities new lessons
for yourself for someone sharing a story with you that might inspire you again I
have found just in general that when you’re the untouchable then people will
grant you that wish they will stop touching you they will stop even
reaching out to you to touch you because they just feel it’s it’s a one-way
street you’re the one who’s providing something and they will take but other
than maybe money paying tuition or your adoration and loyalty or your hard work
they don’t expect anything from you and therefore you don’t even think about
giving them something or sharing something and that’s too bad because if
you’re a student student mind even as a teacher don’t you want to be open to
those things wouldn’t you like it if someone came to you and said hey I saw
this cool technique when you liked it if someone said hey remember when you
taught that breathing exercise I tried it this way and what do you think about
this and how cool if you can say you know what I haven’t heard of that let
let me look into it let me try I just think the value of that for yourself
forget about your students for a minute but as the teacher that’s huge
you are back on the path to learning which only gives you more to teach down
the road so ultimately you’re giving your students more by allowing yourself
to be open enough to receive from them in the first place it’s a beautiful
little cycle all right so I’ve babbled enough I just want to do again not so
much judge today but classify identify two types of teachers in the martial
arts and perhaps in everything the ones who want you to believe they’ve
got it all figured out there’s a time and place for that like I said I think
it’s a nice short term style of teaching I think you can help
a lot of people by letting them believe that you are the source that you have
some answers that you can get them on track that you can be trusted to take
their hand and take them a few steps into a healthier way of living but I
think in the long term you’re gonna want to have the freedom to open up that
curtain over the kimono so to speak I wish I hadn’t used that phrase open the
ghee now keep it closed to keep the kimono closed okay
never mind I think in the long term you’re gonna want to be the style of
teacher who is touchable who is approachable who can sit down after a
class with the students and you can towel off and have a drink and just say
wow here’s what I learned today or here’s what I’m working on here’s what
I’m gonna do differently next time I think in the long term that will earn
you respect I think in the long term that will be a far healthier way to live
your life you’re not gonna worry about getting caught making a mistake or
saying the wrong thing give yourself that freedom bottom line here before we
go share your wisdom and share your mistakes because when you share your
mistakes you’re letting everyone know how you gained the wisdom they go
together show them how you can spin that staff show them how you drop the staff
and then show them how you laugh you pick that staff back up and you start
spinning it all over again. When you have that balance, I believe you’ve got a
winning strategy for a happy life. Alright. I hope you’re fired up to get out
there and make some big mistakes. Just don’t forget to laugh at them. If you
have something to say about today’s show, why don’t you drop by Fight for a Happy
Life.com and leave me a comment. Until next time,
smiles up my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting
for a happy life.

36 thoughts on “#79: Two Teacher Types in Martial Arts [Podcast]

  1. I have come across a few different types of teacher in my time and even spent time teaching, the kids class in TKD after i got my first Dan. One thing I noticed is that its not always the case that the best exponent of the art is the best teacher, there are different skills involved. A good teacher makes sure his students learn self discipline, the only discipline worth anything in my opinion. Sensei Ando has a great attitude to martial arts and his students are lucky to have him

  2. Mine is mostly touchable, but with some minor traits of the untouchable emerging occasionally, but it’s more a personal character thing than a sensei thing. And he always admits his fallibility. Which helps all his students relate to him and look up to him, as he helps us grow as close to him as possible while he, as he says and does, keeps learning himself. From his students also

  3. Yeah,my trainer (every trainer In this world) would definitely have to listen to this episode. The guy Im refferring to just won the european muay-thai championship In italy,and he has won many many awards In russia & europe. He's A great fuckin' fighter And atleast could&should be A more effective trainer. 💯 Keep it up, brother. Id love to be trained by A person like u.

  4. Wait… my favorite commander has been the one that said: "Let''s be honest. Someone is going to die here. Afterwards don't come and tell me you didn't know" 😉

  5. Everyone needs to watch this: it applies to so many situations (as you’ve brought out): Church, work, martial arts, etc. I wish I could have seen this when I was many years younger. Thank you.

  6. Thank you for this, I really like your videos. I started karate at 45 I am now 47 and a blue belt. I have a couple of health issues, but, have always wanted to do martial arts. I needed this video.

  7. Philosophy in martial arts, we are humans and we make mistakes while we are growing, and even growing we still screw up sometimes. Great video. Thank You Ando

  8. hey i'm new to your channel really enjoying your channel I have studied kempo my preferred style  I am liking your vids a lot

  9. Thank you ! I am fortunate to study with the best sensei in the world(no exaggeration)😂haha! We have a wonderful balance of fun, discipline, respect for each other, learning from each other. My sensei is “ very touchable”” 🤣 another hahaha!

  10. This was an amazing post because you showed the pros and cons of both types of teachers!

    I go to a dojo run by a father and son, both amazing teachers but the father is the first type and the son is the second type.

    I find that I learn best when I go to both of their classes in equal measure. They both inspire confidence and help me to develop my skills in different ways.

  11. Another thoughtful episode…made me think. I have been in the teacher role most of my adult life (mostly out of martial arts) and I found this helpful and insightful. I have had a number of martial arts teachers. My last one, my best one was a bit of a mix of the two types you discuss. He was eminently qualified and quietly commanded respect but he sometimes showed his weaknesses, not often but it happened. The people who wanted the authoritarian would be pretty hard on him privately for his foibles, but those of us who have been around a bit and live in glass houses ourselves would mostly shrug it off.
    He had one way of dealing with when a student applied a technique and it didn't work. He would say that fighting in the street is never pretty…sometimes the magic works and sometimes it doesn't…but don't give up, don't stop moving…keep going forward. Probably another good metaphor for life. Anyway thanks for the talk, I really appreciate them

    Mike B.

  12. We have 2 hemispheres of the brain for a reason. It's to deal with both order/structure/logic and chaos/unexpected/creative. I agree both have their own strengths. I think a balance of the 2; which would take time to hone, would be the best route for a teacher to take when teaching. An authority figure who earns respect from each individual by putting the time in to know their students. Knowing who needs what, when they need what, and where they need what is important. A personal/professional approach or professional/personal approach. Tuned in balance!

  13. I'm very happy to hear these thoughts. I'm used to discuss this kind of stuff with my older/former martial arts partners and my actual ones (continents apart). I suppose that it feels good because it reinforces my own stance. In my own discussions I'm used to (also) appoint other categories, like the "this is for money earning teachers" and the "this is for the self values development during the trip". I think that first it's not compatible with the second. One way, in short or long term, transforms the other until it changes completely. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience.

  14. You learn by your mistakes those people who say they don't make them are lying Ando i remember learning the bow staff and just like you I managed to bang my head and it would go flying off in all directions 😂 but practice makes perfect. Keep spinning for a happy life!

  15. Have you tried tibetan bells every once in awhile in case a pet or somebody gets lost…? Nice to have some different surfaces and stuff so I can practice Hansian Dan kata on as well… moving can definitely be stressful sometimes… that's why I've got a yellow belt to give the other guys the advantage, even if I don't know what all the moves for, cuz I'm so bad ass… lol… otherwise you'd think I'd have a black belt…

  16. I had a bad WC teacher once, i asked him about if he knew the one ince punch, then he demonstratet it on me and bended my ribs.

  17. I think it's not so much two types of teacher, but that every teacher is on a sliding scale between the two extremes.

    My sifu, for example, is excessively perfectionistic when it comes to posting videos or writing content. He will do 10 takes on a 5-second slow-mo technique until he gets a take he likes, for example. And he expects students to respect him in his school and to follow instructions without arguing. BUT he is also very "touchable" as you put it, he spars with all of his students, he's on the bag next to us when we're doing bag work, and he's open about his skill gaps and weaknesses. He doesn't hold himself aloof from the students or refuse to interact with students below a certain level or anything like that. A spectrum between being the "boss" and being a "leader", and a teacher's position on that scale can shift depending on situation or circumstance.

  18. Thinking introspectively and critically about one's profession on camera and publishing it to YouTube for everyone to pick over like a salad bar at Golden Corral is risky. Here's my immediate feedback:

    1. You did a good job of identifying/labeling the 2 successful modes of coaching: guru and big brother, expert and facilitator, authoritarian and peer mentor, untouchable and touchable. (different words click best for different folks).

    2. I think you mischaracterized these as types of people instead of modes of behavior. Although you mentioned you think you have been both, you stuck to a simple binary model (either A or B; A and B is not poss). That's the flaw that kept sticking out to me between the otherwise good insights.

    These modes of coaching behavior are BOTH valid, legit, and useful. As you said, they each have strengths and weaknesses. Here's where I think you went off track: a REALLY GOOD coach can effectively use EITHER modality, and will choose based on which is the best tool for the job she is trying to accomplish. Next month, that calculus may change. Or it may change from the elementary age kids' class after school to the 8PM advanced adult class. And a REALLY GREAT coach will switch back and forth and do both exceptionally well.

    One more thing: ALL great coaches operate with the goal of their students surpassing them. If not, they aren't great. Period. If your teacher doesn't want you to be better than he ever was, keep looking for a new teacher. That's MY advice.

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